Tapestry of life awaits the paint brush of our memories.. fullness measured on our life’s remarkable journey; always adding colorful stories and challenges along the way. RAW Thoughts..
Take a moment and rejoice in this truth, this is what your life is made of… where even the best thief cannot steal away. All it takes is a quiet moment to recall and there you are again, magic and most powerful.
Memories, such a gift of this experience of life; many take for granted. I mean, all it takes is a familiar song, a familiar face in the crowd, a place once visited; and there you mind goes. But, yes, we also have the painful memories that yank us back to the time we still have not learned how to forget. Funny how memories have so mush staying power.
What come to mind is the years dealing with the criminally insane and immorally behavior challenged people observing how challenged each were fighting the demons of their memorable past. Too much of their life’s attention, sometimes years of every waking moment given to an ugly sometimes heinous event in their past, reliving it over and over with no rest. Truly the issue not yet properly addressed, dilution of what they have been thinking to what should be; things that truly matter, things that each should be thankful to have in their life. SAD!
For the majority of us, I have observed, use social media to share their content or mostly discontent of their life’s going ons. WOW, and they wonder why they seem to not find happiness?
Fact is, everyone, well most everyone, has a small few they rely on for advice or counsel on a regular basis. If you are honest with yourself, most of your success and failures rest in those few.
So, if you agree that your happiness or regret presently needs fine tuning, I suggest you start with who you’ve been sharing your precious time with. Friend come and go; memories will not, they are forever a part of you!
So, I challenge you to make more happy than sad memories! SEE You on the Beaches!!
Are you getting sick in tired of being sick and tired??
“A smooth Sea never makes a skillful Sailor” Raw Thoughts..
These days of digital supported imaginative wizardry, it’s a wonder a sane person can pursue his or her desires without so many distractions. I mean, just click on an email or text link or catch a You Tube video and there you go down a new rabbit hole of endless inspirational possibilities!
Some say that the catalyst of this constant state of ‘not really knowing what to put your heart into’ stems from the fact that those affected have limited resources. For instance, can you imagine not having the restriction of money?! Think of all of the recent new found inspirations that would be realized if you only had and endless supply of money.
The truth of this ‘paralysis of analysis’ is deeply rooted on the lack of money. Many that worry may even have an excellent Job with excellent pay; but, just knowing that there is a chance to lose this job will stop even a highly successful employee dead in its tracks.
What to do?! Here are just a few pointers:
1. Get a second job. Even a part time job will allow you to have options to pursue another adventure… work overtime if allowed.
2. Get a working partner to go halves on the bills. Now you do not have to have anything beyond a plutonic relationship to work this one; but sometimes it just happens to be icing on the cake if you are lucky to find Love..
3. Start a side business. Nurture what already takes up your free time and find a way to make money doing it. That is a novel concept many just need to take a leap of faith in pursuing .. Google what you do now and add ‘making money doing _______ it will blow your mind!
4. Invest in the stock market. Whether you know it not, since the inception of the stock market, millionaires and now new found billionaires have been made in the stock market. I mean, just look at the new penny stocks of weed and new energy stocks to name a few. Sure does not take a ton of money to risk.. maybe some huge gonads though..
5. Transition into being unplugged! What is that you might ask?
It is my hope, sooner than later, a majority of us will be awaken from the fog of self limitations that was sold to our parents.. your know, what is causing most of your struggles today; that thankless JOB. Secure retirement promises and pay to sustain your Dreams are near extinct. Unless you have a means for instance, to gather and database information for profit, you will continue to be unhappy. Look at the wealth of just two of the biggest in the name of databases info; Jeff Bezos of Amazon, Bill Gates of Microsoft, the list of the current mega billionaires all are involved with database management and some form of profit engine. Now, mind you, money is not everything… or is it just a start?
Remember the movie the Matrix? How many potential lives of each human being were stolen and harnessed to feed the the goals and objectives of the few. Well pardon me, but this is pretty close to what each of us are now experiencing by allowing to be ‘PLUGGED IN”!!?
Test this out by turning off your smartphone for a week, no social media and no political or talkshow / news access. Yes, some pushback will ensue; but doing this small act will prove my point. Welcome to the matrix. It is not the act of being plugged in; its the lost of your awareness that you are.. that is the the culprit. I mean really, are you driving your daily decisions or is it the constant bombardment of the seemingly limitless information we are exposed to in control?
What are the happy escapees doing? Do you know that digital currency like Bitcoin, is now being used by those that do not have a bank account elsewhere with no government regulation! How about those that are off the energy grid and is some cases being paid to supply energy, have no energy bills. These that unplug and understand the new ‘Sharing’ economy have their children graduate High Schools even traveling most of the year. Or, have income that pay them 24 / 7 and from multiple sources. These are those that have unplugged… Stay tuned, more details to follow!
The story of how amazingly silly human behavior mimics animal mannerisms is not silly after all. A story shared with me many times growing up in the Philippines shows a simple fact, do you know how easy it is to keep a ‘crab’ in a shallow bucket? Just place another crab in there with it and watch how the first will snag the second and where both will not make it out.
Sadly it’s like that special friend who is the first to tell you, (or anyone else) how silly it is to work toward getting out of your comfort zone like to pursue a new promotion / finding love with an above league girl or guy / achieving a lofty fitness or health goal, etc. We all know who that person is..
Do not let the words of another stifle your growing imagination to better yourself! Move pass the limiting conjecture of those who continually whine about their life and be the best you! The picture in your mind is but a fragile glimpse of the great possibilities of a better life, so fragile yet so powerful. To the crab, it’s food! Be aware of those that try through words and actions to keep you just where they are, whining, hoping and even praying; but not willing to move past their comfort zone. The gift of a better life is one of action in the face of what seemingly is fear. GET OFF YOUR ASS and out of the bucket!!
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Seeking Happiness… Is it something you watch, wish for or do? Or is it even attainable?
Ever wonder how you sometimes find yourself doing the watching and wishing instead of actually on the road to happiness. I admit it, I did…
“Everybody in the world is seeking happiness – and there is one sure way to find it. That is by controlling your thoughts. Happiness doesn’t depend on outward conditions. It depends on inner conditions.”
— Dale Carnegie
Hey here is a personal test and a gift I will share to you on how to have more control in this elusive area of what a friend described as ‘mental gymnastics of the soul’
Grab a pen / keyboard or paper and give yourself ten seconds to write what comes in your mind on two topics. Ready? In ten seconds write or type out Five things that are Troubling You Right now… GO!!
OK, did you get all five? Great! Stay with me, the gift is in the understanding and the follow on results… Ready for the second topic? Good!
In Ten seconds, no MORE! Right / type out five things that you ARE MOST Thankful for! GO!
Times up!! I venture to say that not all of you finished all five. Don’t feel bad, I did not either. There is a message here if it took you more time to do the latter…
The biggest reason is that we, as of late, have been giving our attention (attention = life) to the things that lead us away from our unique happiness; those things that we have alway felt that we are thankful to have in our life… those things that many of us have taken for granted..
Ok here is your gift, ‘the happy trigger’
Here is how it works. I just gave you what you have always had, ammo for Despair (lack of a better word) and ammo for Happiness. Now every time you meet someone and they smile, re-snap a picture of any of the five things that you are most thankful to have in your life. And if they do not smile, of course you know then what to do. Here’ the magic that I am sure you will automatically figure out; that is how to make that person smile back , YES, you smile first! SEE Yes, you always had it!!
RE-READ what Dale Carnegie said above please..
Fun and rewarding a the same time. My gig is up! Now you know why you see me smiling all the time! 🙂
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We each have a precise allotment of heartbeats..
Sad that we don’t realize each of us have the ‘Goods’… until the 11th hour. The constant interruptions of the many messages program the mind, so it is said, some seem permanent. Momentary glimpse of what could be.. darts in and out teasingly honest of the what could have beens. Funny each of us knows this truth the moment facts are presented. The contagious disease of growth has always been ‘inaction’. Some say paralysis of analysis..
Did you know each is born with a sensory filter, (lest we explode with overload), this one is called, the ‘what truly matters’, WTM , filter. Programmed to shape the quantity and quality of what is allowed to interact with our senses. Some do not work properly, ergo degrees of genius and stupidity.
Best news is that most anyone can re-program the WTM filter with proper understanding through the proper exposure of new information / experiences, and it’s payoff is the gifts of change.
“Funny how a song, a new face or even a scent can recapture a lost memory… a lost should have would have if only’s..“ If you are true to yourself, just excuses..
Many of us do not question why even our computers, smartphones or any automation device requires updating. But we will argue with every fiber of our being when our beliefs are challenged. Question is, how does the fruit taste from your deep rooted beliefs. Or, if true happiness is what you are after, then why are you not happy? Could it be a degree of your unwillingness to change?
If you have adopted a ‘this is it’ philosophy, I suggest being honest with yourself. You know that the dying begins in the mind way before the dying of the body…
There has never been a time in human history where the wealth of information can be carried around and available to anyone no matter what station of life he or she might hale from!!
It been said from the many great thinkers that for your world to change you must first change yourself.
Time to update / reprogram!
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You met an Asshole early one morning, ok; maybe they are having a bad day. You meet Assholes all day, guess what, you’re the ASSHOLE – Raw Thoughts
In our new age of Instant Gratification where the generation gaps converge on seemingly endless access to the overload and ease of mostly useless information, being first takes a new form, individual survival and can be fun!?
Many would argue a introvert approach of wait and see, not me! Why you might ask. We live in a time where chaos appears in nano seconds; and most every time when analyzed, could have been avoided or at least its impact minimized.
Example – Just about all of my Corrections Friends would agree the importance of always observing to precondition the outcome just moments before the emotional ramp up of an Inmate. Mental or medical conditions aside, most every similar trigger can be managed if we first catch the change of emotions. No secret here. Those that do live it breath it even away from work, part of their persona.
Hey, here’s a veteran secret to maintaining a reaction edge to most every potential bad outcome. SET THE ENCOUNTER!
How? Be the first to say hello, first to acknowledge the other person presence, first to make eye contact… first to SMILE!
Being first this way is an excuse to catch that person off guard where your assessments becomes more sincere. Best part is, what you present is generally what you get in return.
Wishing that all of you had A MERRY Christmas and of course, a personally Outstanding Happy New Year!!
Thanks for being You!!
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Wow 2017 has already begun…your plans…are you running or walking?
Some will look back with earnest with exacting adjustments to again meet and sometimes exceed their goals; many will not. Choices we all face? Some say its the choices we make that defines us. I agree but must add, now with the multitude of distractions, making meaningful purposeful decisions has never been more difficult.
It is my hope that your new year will bring the kind of things and experiences that somehow have eluded you in the past. But I dare say, remember the saying about insanity… doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result… or something like that.
This short ditty is a sharing of what a hardheaded me learned about getting and achieving. First, take a quite moment to make an assessment of what you want to accomplish by years end. Group or break it into areas needing attention now. Health, Wealth, Wise are my favs.
Not getting into Goal setting here, too many great programs out there to answer that need. But what I will do is share with you a couple of suggestions that might assist you.
Many fail in their attempts because most do not have in place a method to keep score / or guide posts along the way. I mean, looking back now of what you were able to accomplish for 2016 will not make you happy about any goals set earlier in the year. You must have a way to keep score to ultimately be happy at years end.
Here is a quick way that has worked for me and many others. Using the Health, Wealth, Wise groups. First ID one thing in each that would make you happy that you would complete by years end. Be serious and compelling about this selection. For example, Health – Trade 15lbs of fat with 15lbs of lean muscle to complete my personal best in a 5km. Wealth – Put away in a interest bearing account 3 months or more of my pay for a rainy day fund. Wise – Read 12 Books of which 3 will be work / industry related. After you are comfortable about your new found practice, set more..
Here the magic move. Start a daily journal of which you confess and log your progress in these goals! It will be these moments of self talk and reflection captured incrementally (daily jotting of your thoughts) that will keep you on track. All the books I have read detailing the interviews of the highest achievers do just that, they keep a journal!! I must add, goals setting notes is just a line or two in my daily thoughts, I also capture the many things that had inspired me that day and the hopes of days to come as well..
Now I expect some push back on this suggestion. Go ahead and re-read the insanity line again…
HAPPY NEW YEAR GOD BLESS YOU!
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“My favorite things in life don’t cost any money. It’s really clear that the most precious resource we have is time.” Steve Jobs
“Time has no meaning in itself unless we choose to give it significance.” Leo Buscaglia
I know many of you have more than one source of income. Maybe another job, working spouse, investment income or maybe even a side business. Takes more than one today doesn’t it?! We also know many that seem to make their life happen on only one. Happiness has many forms. Majority of us want it all; hence the multiple income approach. Happiness is a choice that just takes effort at times.
If you are like most of us, we were raised to believe that you must do well in school, go to college so you can land a good JOB, Right! I have a niece that has already slaved through 21 years of education awaiting selection to a hospital as a Doctor, (Resident); but still has a number of years before she can practice. We counted just recently that she will be in her early 30’s before she has the title of Doctor. A Great salary will of course come with all the hard work. Then many hours a week, some say 80 to 100 for a number of years. So proud of her! Here to tell you, I couldn’t or wouldn’t sacrifice most of my limited life for what our society has sold to the masses as the path to happiness. Trust me, I’m already smartly sharing some options to her.
The basic key to a happy life is to do what drives you and get paid for doing it! Don’t know what that might be for you, just know that if you are too busy working for what you thought was a good job; running out of time to enjoy it becomes the norm. For my niece above, she worries how she can include starting a family while she is still of the age to enjoy it.
Let’s take some personal inventory. Take out a piece of paper and write out the title, Happy Life – Starting NOW! In any format list several key areas that must be addressed: Monthly Income, DEBT Service, Social / Family Status, Retirement Status
Now use Time and Money as the two items that you now have as resources. For example, under INCOME; 160 hours a month, 40hr / week, and $4000, (just example) where you must then subtract total of hours a month, 720, (30×24) minus hours of sleep, 240, (8×30), balance being 320 hours for the balance on the month. Not including travel time to work, emergencies, vacation, taxes, debt service, and other time and money users. Yeah I know, its just math! Now if you did finish through all of the areas a common theme will arise; basically, you run out of month before you truly enjoy your efforts.
The new RICH is having the MONEY and TIME to truly enjoy your life! In most every personal case researched, this new Rich and happy group has made TIME their friend. Each story is unique, but all properly use technology or digital tools to multiple their efforts and therefore their time. Its like having more than 24 hours a day and the money earned every extra minute in turbo drive!!
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To your search for Happiness!!
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“Do it! I say. Whatever you want to do, do it now! There are only so many tomorrows.” Michael Landon
The personal quality of Life is placed squarely on one’s decision to experience the thing that seemingly becomes elusive. I mean really. You have X number of days to check off your bucket list, ‘Right’!
The challenging question is, ‘do you even have a bucket?’ Why not?
“Unless you change direction, you are likely to end up where you are headed.” Chinese proverb.
You must know that a full life is without yearning or wishing and hoping that you should have done this or that…invariably mental gymnastics while on your deathbed.
Happiness is that thing that becomes elusive. Been my experience that a person must begin with personal happiness to properly involved others. Funny how attractive a happy person becomes!
The must do exercise is to write out your ‘bucket list’! Some rules or guidance should be to write out at least 100, be in present tense, and saved for future reference. You can write it out on a old school piece of paper or digitized it on your computer or smartphone. No matter just do it!
The other most important thing is to associate a picture that best fits the goal. That way you can better excite your subconscious, your own creative factory. For example, “I own an Island’ picture of island.
Simple right! You know better! It is the decisions that accompany the proper execution of each item, (or new experience), that is the difficult part. For example, those that are contrary to involving a unwilling partner. Like, when you write something like, ‘I dive 100 feet’ or I jumped at 15,000 feet’ or any other event He or She is totally against. Meaning you most likely will have to delete that item. Or just maybe accept the fact you settled to live your life through your partners dreams and desires. A compromise…is to write out a bucket list together… If that makes you happy. My guess it will not.
Most of us go through life not knowing what we want… but feeling darned sure we don’t have it!
Make quality decisions now do not wait and begin to live a full life!!
Know that you are one quality decision away from real happiness! Stop lying to yourself and sharing your excuses with others now!
Expect only the best from yourself. I know I am!
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